How do you feel when you wake up in the morning? Do you jump out of bed with enthusiasm – ready to take on the world? Or do you dread waking up and question whether this is all there is?

Losing your excitement for life is not uncommon. We all too often get so caught up in living day to day, taking care of the kids, going to work, buying that bigger house, or newer car, etc,  that we forget to focus on what is really important – our happiness. Sooner or later something happens that reminds us how important it is to stop and really focus on us and our happiness. The trigger can be a number of things – the death of a loved one, a divorce, a close call with death, a new found love, etc.

When the trigger occurs we begin to really question our current life and relationship. We begin to pay attention to our daily routine and turn off our auto-pilot. Many begin to re-evaluate their life purpose, their marriage and their jobs. We begin to see all of our lost or set aside dreams. We begin to realize that we no longer pursue the things that we are passionate about. In essence, we find ourselves void of emotion and passion. Then along comes someone who understands us, encourages us to pursue all the things that we have set aside, ignites our passion for life again, and listens to what we say - before long we begin to believe that we have found our soulmate, the answer to our prayers.

We believe that all our problems will be solved if only we could be with this person – we would go from dreading the next day to jumping out of bed with the enthusiasm to see what this day will bring. Is it true – can this person really repair what is wrong or lost in your life? Is it really fair to ask so much of someone? Is it really someone else’s responsibility to make you feel whole? The answer to these questions is a resounding “no”. It is our responsibility to make ourselves feel whole and complete. This person is merely a reminder to you to make the changes you need to make to get there, nothing more nothing less. They will not solve your problems; they will not make you whole and happy again. Sure maybe for a short period of time – you will forget that you don’t like who you have become, that you have lost sight of what is important to you. It is kind of like taking pain pills for a broken bone without getting the bone fixed – it masks the pain for a bit but eventually you will be reminded that something isn’t quite right. If you don’t fix the broken bone you may become addicted to the pain killers, just like you will become addicted to having someone make you feel good. But if you fix the bone or yourself then you won’t need the drug to dull the pain.

So if you find yourself in this type of situation my challenge to you is to use this as a catalyst to begin taking care of what is broken in your life. Begin taking the steps you need to heal the broken parts of yourself. If you make the commitment to take care of you – you will begin to feel whole and complete and you will regain your passion for life. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. Don’t sell yourself short. Become the person that you are when you are with that person – but without using that person as a crutch. Only you can make yourself happy – so don’t put a band aid on your broken soul – stitch it up and make it whole again.

You don’t have to do it alone, gain the support, tools and resources you need to heal the broken parts of your life – join the Reclaim your Passion for Life – Finding You coaching group and take the steps you need to regain your passion for life – the destination is worth the journey – I promise you.