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Drop It Like It's Hot

Tue, 15 May 2012 11:10:32 -0400

Good Morning Lovelies!!! I was rushing with getting breakfast together and didn't pay attention and pick up a hot skillet and IMMEDIATELY dropped it which believe it or not, lead me to my thought this morning, which is, Drop It Like It's Hot. Have you ever been doing one thing when you know you should be doing something else? Perhaps you put your focus on irrelevant things on a daily basis. Are you letting distractions keep you from focusing on your goals? Here's the thing.....you will have to be determined to stay focused....move those things that are distracting you and DROP IT LIKE IT'S HOT, those things that are not moving you towards the goals you have set place. It could be as simple as FB or as complicated as an unhealthy relationship. That hot skillet was dropped, INSTANTLY, because I knew if I continued to hold on to it, it would eventually hurt me. I encourage you to drop those things you know are a distraction and focus on the things that will help you reach your goals. Have an AMAZING day, ON PURPOSE!!! *butterfly kisses*

The Fear of Fear

Tue, 15 May 2012 04:10:09 -0400

The battles are not easy. We purpose in our hearts to change. Change the people we hang around or the places we go. Things like that. We try, yet somehow always seem to end up at square one. It becomes so difficult. The same hurts, the same defeats, the same let downs. Open wounds of the heart, the spirit that never seem to heal. Anger we carry toward another, that we just cannot seem to release. Though we want to let go, there is something inside of us that causes us to cling to, and embrace the very things and people who have already devastated us. Why? Why can we not let go? What is it that really drives us? Fear is powerful and the root cause of many things. If you really examine yourself, fear is usually at the root of your problem. We are afraid to let go of the things that hurt us, because at least we are familiar with those things. It has become a strange sort of comfort zone for us. This may feel bad, but at least I know what to expect. The hole in our hearts is, at least a familiar hole. We have got to stop being afraid of the fear for it is not the fear that hurts us. What hurts us is our own mindset, an enemy from within.

Vacuums and Vampires

Mon, 14 May 2012 10:08:09 -0400

Aristotle quote, "Nature abhors a vacuum". What are you doing to insure that the wants of vacuums and vampires don’t suck the energy, joy and peace you need to stay whole?

Go Pursue It!

Wed, 09 May 2012 14:07:43 -0400

What have you purposed to achieve in this upcoming weeks? I'm not talking about money and possessions. What have you purposed in your heart to do about the overall condition of your spirit? Have you finally come to terms with yourself about what it is you need to let go of? Face your fears and then tell them to go. You CAN do this. Just decide you want to. This month Compass is talking about "The Pursuit of Happiness". What are you pursuing? It is the things that are first and foremost in your mind that you are drawn to. Unfortunately, some of us are drawn to mess, stress and drama. Then when we find it we complain. Why not pursue happiness? You have to pursue it because it is not going to chase you down and come after you.

Why not join us and take part in what is being released into our spirits. It will change your mind. In turn it will change what you pursue....

Reflections

Wed, 02 May 2012 19:46:20 -0400

When you look at your reflection what is it that you see? There is a big difference between "look" and "see".

LOOK - "to exercise the power of vision upon"

SEE - "to perceive the meaning or importance of : understand: to be aware of : recognize"

As I am walking through the woods, undoubtedly I will look at the trees. But once I focus on seeing the trees, things become very different. As I "see" I will begin to focus on detail. I will begin to notice the beauty of the formation of the branches, the bark, the types of leaves. I will pay more attention to color and detail. Perhaps I will notice a bird's nest or two, occupied by baby birds. I may smile as I watch the squirrels playing across the branches. I will notice the beauty of the manifestation of the breeze as it gently blows by. So now, seeing has enabled me to embrace things that I was not able to embrace by just looking. The ability to see has taken me to a different level, a more spiritual level than just looking can accomplish.

What do you see when you look at your reflection? Do you only see things on the surface? Perhaps your skin and eye color; hair color? You look at you and maybe think that your eyes are a bit too close together or your nose a bit to wide? What is it that you see when you look at you?

In order to truly reflect upon yourself, it is required that you look much deeper than the surface. You must develop the ability to understand what makes you tick. What motivates you, what moves you, and why. What are your talents and gifting? You may be thinking that either you don't know, or you don't have any. God has gifted every person on this planet. It is through your connection to HIM that you are able to understand what they are. As you reflect upon yourself, realistically and maybe for the first time, you can begin to understand why your life has gone the way it has. You cannot fix anything until you understand what has caused it to break. Once you allow yourself a real Spiritual connection, the next step is to receive the revelation that comes as to who you really are. This will take you deeper than the surface. If you are in need of repair then you must be willing to accept what the problems are and then be willing to take the necessary steps to be repaired. If you want to heal there are times that strong medicine is required. Sometimes the hardest thing to face is yourself, but once you do your entire life will change. You will begin to see things in the realm of your spirit that have weighted you down and held you back. You will, with clarity, be able to detect the areas of brokenness in your life for what they really are. Your spiritual eyes will become wide open. It is spiritual sight you need to accomplish this because your natural sight cannot help you. Your natural sight will only allow you to see those things that your mind can handle, on your level. Your spiritual sight is a direct result of revelation from the Most High. He shows you the things you really need to know.

It is time to walk into a new season in your life. It is time for change. It is time to grow. If you really want help, help is available. This time around you must be willing to deal with you on another level and realistically. Get rid of the sugar coating and take off the rose colored glasses. You can change. The first thing you must change is your mind........

The Band Aid Theory

Tue, 01 May 2012 00:03:24 -0400

A band aid is used to cover up a painful wound. It’s made up of an adhesive that sticks to a certain part of the body and serves as a component to keep the wound from becoming infected. As the band aid stays on for a period of time its begins to get old and if left on too long it sticks to the skin which makes it very painful when you try to remove it. The band aid serves as a temporary relief to the painful wound but eventually it must come off to give the wound air and allow it to heal properly. This same theory can be applied to those who enter into new relationships before allowing themselves to heal properly from a previous relationship. When coming out of a long term relationship it is very important that you take essential time out to properly heal before jumping into a new relationship. If you fail to do this the person that you enter into the new relationship with who is referred to as the REBOUND will serve as your band aid. This person enters your life as a cover up. Just as the band aid does they are covering up the pain from the lost relationship. They stick to the hurting heart (the wound) and appear to be healing you when in fact it’s just a temporary agent to cover up the pain. As with the band aid this person will stick for as long as they can and eventually it will be removed. Once they are removed you are still stuck with the same wounds and pain. These wounds will not heal until the proper time has been allotted for the healing process to run its course. you can never use a person to get over a person the only way to properly heal from a broken relationship is to take time out to do a self-reflection and focus on yourself and the things that went wrong in the broken relationship. Once you take that time out to do a personal and possible spiritual inventory of what went wrong in the broken relationship you then find yourself and can begin the healing process. totally healing from a broken relationship allows you to first accept your faults and decide what it is that you really desire and need in a relationship. This self-reflection time will ensure that when you are ready to enter into a new relationship that you have fully accepted your part in the demise of the previous relationship and that you will not make the same mistakes again. Many people make the mistake of convincing themselves that they cannot be alone this false notion will keep these individuals in a constant state of fear and bondage. As humans no one wants to be alone however if you cannot accept being alone then you will never be successful in any relationships. being with yourself and allowing your heart to heal allows you to get in tuned with you which in turn gives you the opportunity to leave behind the hurts from the past and move forward with loving yourself so that you will be mentally and spiritually able to properly love someone else.

From Pain To Passion To Purpose

Sun, 29 Apr 2012 18:36:23 -0400

Discover How To Use Your Pain To Propel You Instead of Paralyze You!

Focus and Faith

Sun, 29 Apr 2012 11:06:12 -0400

Good Sunday Morning to ya!!! It really should be against the law to have to work on Sundays but until I make my transition, this is the way it will be. Anywho, I'm so thankful this morning as I reflect on the horrible drive I had from work yesterday in the storm we had. Of course I had a revelation....as I was driving, I saw a big cloud rotating right above me, it was dark, pouring down raining, winds were very high, tornado sirens going off, then huge hail balls came from nowhere AND my Trio were home alone. I said, "Lord, I can't see, I don't know how I'm going to make it but I gotta keep driving because I have to get home to my babies!!!" I had that unwavering faith that He would keep me. You see, I was determined.....on a mission, to get to my destination regardless to what was going on around me. I kept my focus and my faith and ultimately got there. So whatever your mission is in life, you too need to remain focused. Things will try to stop you but trust God and keep pushing and you too will arrive at your destination. Have an AMAZING day, ON PURPOSE!!! *butterfly kisses*

Price Per Pound

Sat, 28 Apr 2012 23:49:05 -0400

When we go to travel on an airplane we will find that there are certain restrictions on the luggage we choose to carry. There are size and weight requirements. Should we choose to go over the boundaries of those restrictions, we will be required to pay extra in order to carry that luggage with us. How much extra is the spiritual luggage you carry costing you? Ever consider that? Some of us choose to continue to carry the weight of things that hurt us years ago. The hurt of a rape or an abuser. The hurt of people who left our lives. The hurt of men who walked out on us. We embrace and nurture these wounds like a new born baby. While doing so, we fail to realize the damage the burden of this extra weight has cost us. I know that some of us do not want to gain an understanding of this because our hurt, our pain, our unforgiveness, our anger, our bitterness has become such a part of us that we do not know how to live any other way. Some of us have carried these things in our spirits for the past 20 or 30 years if not more. We have come to convince ourselves that our lives are better this way. What we fail to understand is the very thing you have chosen to embrace keeps you separated from the true freedom you desire in your life. No matter what you think, there is no free flow of the Spirit to you when you are weighted down my all of these negative feelings and emotions. A positive spiritual flow cannot operate like that. As a matter of fact, some have their religious behavior confused with being spiritual. Religious is religious. Spiritual is spiritual. They are not connected in any way. When these emotions and feelings are carried for a very long period of time, the mind is affected. These emotions keep you in a state of confusion. Even the Word tells us that a double minded man is unstable in all of his ways. How are we double minded? We are professing an ability within us to live in a positive spiritual light while living by, and honoring emotions and feelings that are just the opposite. You cannot live both ways at the same time. Thus instability of the mind has now been created.

When a number of friends express concern, believe them. They are seeing something in you, that you cannot see. The bitter root of your spirit has completely taken you over. That is why you believe that everything is fine. The truth is that nothing is ok within your spirit. Instead of embracing negativity, embrace those around you, who show you true love and concern. Recognize that there is a spiritual affliction that must be dealt with and dealt with quickly. It is time to tap into the spiritual realm, pray and ask for help heal the brokenheart, and wounded emotions. The key to change is recognizing the need for change. As I allow myself to tap deeper into the Realm of the Spirit, the love I have found there is amazing. There is nothing else like it. Would you not prefer love over hurt? Do you really want to stay bitter? Forgive those who have hurt you. It is time to release it all now. Stop embracing what the enemy is using to destroy you. You can do this. You can be happy and victorious in your life. Just let it all go. You really can if you decide that you want to.....Selah.

IT IS WHAT YOU CHOOSE TO DO, OR CHOOSE NOT TO DO

Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:18:45 -0400

Last night I was on the group coaching call with Coach Nancy Feth. Awesome experience. The Power of Choice. The choices we make in our lives are very powerful, one way or the other. Whether we make good, sound choices, or we do not, there is going to be a harvest from the seed we sow. A number of years ago a movie was released called "Unfaithful". It was about a middle aged, married woman who had an affair with a younger man. In the movie she was speaking with him, questioning what she was doing. Her marriage was fine and there really was no reason for this affair. In the midst of her considering her situation, the younger man looked at her and said something quite profound. He said "There are no mistakes. It is what you choose to do, or choose not to do". Wow.

As the call unfolded last night the conversation took me to a past time in my life. A time when I use to just go along with the group of people I was with. Whether I really wanted to do what they were doing, or not. I always went along with them out of fear. The fear of rejection. The fear of being talked about. The fear of being alone. The fears... Half the time I was not happy with those people and mostly I wasn't happy with me. I lived like that for years. What a prison I had locked myself in. What a horrible existence. One of the greatest moments of my life was when I finally had enough. I had to be pushed to the point where the fears no longer mattered. I knew I had to let it all go. So I did, and I was able to walk away free, never to be bound like that again.

Let me encourage you today. Do what you need to do. Free yourself, because the truth is that you are the only one who can. Stop living to please everyone around you while you stand there starving. Everything is a choice. Even not making a decision is a choice. Renovate your mind.